You just do

I kind of hate that I do this but, whenever I’m having a bad day. I tend to make these blanket statements in my head like This Wednesday has been the worst day of the week for me or I just can’t wait for the weekend, this has been such a crappy week.

Generally, these are all true. And on these kinds of days, all I can do is wait for the next week to roll around and hope it is a whole lot better. And then the next week, when I look back, all I can think, is Wow its’ been a week, since that awful thing happened last week, time really flies when you aren’t looking. And the next week, Whoa it’s been two weeks since that Wednesday.

And so on for maybe a week or two more. But you know, somewhere along the way, you stop counting. You stop keeping track. And while the only explanation we give ourselves, is that life gets busy, and hopefully, many better, sunnier days, have come since then, and helped you push the dark clouds you saw that day, far away, we sometimes miss the big picture.

So next time tell yourself the most important thing that you need to hear. You survived a lousy day, and the next week, and the next…And maybe you subconsciously stopped counting, but I think it’s because you knew, you needed to. You needed to get up, keep fighting to survive because that’s what you do best. You are amazingly strong and brave, you know it, and you know what, that’s enough. Don’t count your days and weeks, in terms of how fast life has passed you by while you were preoccupied or upset. Instead count them in terms of how many days you proved to yourself, what you’ve always known, you are strong.

So if you’re having a streak of those weeks, where you’re keeping count wondering when you will stop saying to yourself, I can’t believe it’s been three weeks since that day when I got dumped, or since I got fired, flunked an exam, or whatever else you’re going through, don’t pressurize yourself to stop counting the weeks and just pretend it didn’t happen. Keep surviving, and if it makes you feel better to keep track of how many weeks you survived, then do. Don’t worry too much about when you are going to stop keeping count. Because one day, you just do.